A word thrown around pretty lightly — yet when it hits, it feels almost unbearable.

It usually doesn’t ‘take much’. A look, a comment, a tone of voice.

Someone forgets to text you back, or a friend cancels last minute, and suddenly — you’re spiraling.

But what is a trigger, really? And why do they make us feel so reactive, so suddenly?

Let’s talk about it.

💥 A Trigger Isn’t About the Present (Even Though It Feels Like It)

Put simply, a trigger is what happens when something in your present moment hits a tender, unhealed part of your past.

That’s why the response often feels disproportionate.

You’re not just reacting to what was said — you’re reacting to the meaning your nervous system assigns to it. It’s not just about now. It’s about then.

So when someone dismisses your idea and you suddenly feel small, panicked, or ashamed… That may not be about the meeting. It might be echoing a classroom moment in second grade when you got laughed at.

And when your partner forgets to include you and you feel like you want to disappear… That might tap into an old story of being left out, overlooked, or not chosen.

We all carry these stories. They live in our subconscious, and they don’t come up all the time — but when they do, it’s loud.

🧠 Triggers and the Nervous System

When you’re triggered, your nervous system goes into survival mode. It says: This feels familiar. This feels unsafe. Let’s protect you.

So just think, when you shut down, lash out, freeze, get anxious, or feel deeply hurt, that’s your nervous system doing its best to protect you from a perceived threat — even if the actual situation isn’t dangerous.

That’s what makes triggers so tricky. They’re not logical. They’re emotional.

They live in your body. In your subconscious. In your past.
And the more gently we can acknowledge them, the more healing becomes possible.

🌿 Where EFT Comes In

Hi so, have you heard about tapping? 🥰

Being able to ease a trigger response immediately, and forever change our nervous system’s reponse to it? Feels like a superpower; and it is.

EFT allows us to feel the trigger — without getting overwhelmed by it.

And then, even more powerfully, EFT can help us go to the root of it. The original moment. The old story. The belief that got formed.

Once the nervous system starts to feel safe, the trigger decreases in weight – and will become smaller and smaller each time we tap on it.

You might still notice it — but you’ll have space around it. You’ll have choice.

And over time, the charge dissolves. What used to send you spiraling? It becomes neutral.

That’s how we heal: not by pushing triggers away, but by learning to hold them with understanding — and then giving them new meaning.

✨ You’re Not “Too Sensitive”

You’re not dramatic. Or too much. Or weak for feeling what you feel.

You’re human.

And if something feels big — that’s because it is big for the part of you that experienced it the first time around. That part deserves care.

And the beautiful thing? With tools like EFT, with presence, with gentleness — you can heal.

You can move from being ruled by your triggers… to meeting them with softness and safety.

That changes your inner world. And that always ripples outward.

If you’re feeling called to explore your own triggers — not to judge them, but to understand and shift them — I’m here. Let’s talk. Together, we’ll create space where reaction used to live.

Because you don’t have to stay stuck in the old story. You get to write a new one.